This is another funny incident!
After the intial round of 'talks' the meeting was fixed & both the families with the 'girl' & 'boy' in question meet at a neutral venue.
The 'boy' in question is doing very well for himself but as per him he is unattractive. Well, the guy had a dark complexion & is not the 'traditionally' good looking types.
As far as my views go, for me looks are immaterial.
Over the conversation, the guy spills the beans... He is looking to get married to ONLY a very fair, slim 'girl'..Reason, future gene pool....
My reaction, WHAT!
Why did you agree to meet because I am not that, ATALL!
Family pressure he says.
Well.... what can I say....Adious! & All the best!
Earlier Posts:
intro
Part I
Part II
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Mar 21, 2010
Feb 5, 2010
Conversation Series-Part-II
This is in continuation of my earlier posts,( intro and Part I) where I'm recounting the type of people I & my parents met in the process of trying to find a 'suitable match' for me!
This story also starts through a matrimonial ad placed in a leading daily!
The contact details mentioned in the ad were used & contact established with the father of the guy in question. During the course of the discussion it was mutually agreed that on a designated date, I along with Dad would meet the guy & his parents in Bombay. The guy lived in Bombay & his parents were also reaching there around that time so it would be convenient for all.
So, tickets booked, travel details conveyed, address exchanged and agreed that the venue would be discussed & finalised on the date of meeting.
We landed in Bombay at my mausi's place & the phone was connected to discuss the plan of meeting. The phone at our end was kept in loudspeaker mode so that all can hear the conversation & give inputs on the venue & meeting time.
All almost finalised when the father of the guy comes out with a very very special 'requirement'. He conveyed to my Dad that, Dad should ensure that the girl (that's yours truly) NEEDS to be attired 'decently' when we meet. He goes on to add that 'decently' means either Salwar Kameez or Saree. Further, he added that the kameez/blouse should not be sleeveless.....
I almost jumped out of my chair with my temper gone beyond the roof! I gestured to my Dad to bang the phone down. He, obviously ended the conversation decently.
I absolutely refused to go. My take, who is he to dictate what I will wear. A prospective FIL, but only prospective. If this is the attitude now, what will happen if things move further. Moreover, he expects me/us to be artificial & made up to please their eyes... Then, what all would they be hiding/covering/camouflaging, I wondered.
Since, we had travelled all the way & were going to return the next day, Dad said that we should go & give them a benefit of doubt.
So, we reach, meet but my mind was closed by then.
Oh yes! I did mention to the guy that I had expected to see him in Kurta Payjama/Dhooti & not Jeans & T-Shirt....
Loved the expression on his face... Priceless.....
:)
This story also starts through a matrimonial ad placed in a leading daily!
The contact details mentioned in the ad were used & contact established with the father of the guy in question. During the course of the discussion it was mutually agreed that on a designated date, I along with Dad would meet the guy & his parents in Bombay. The guy lived in Bombay & his parents were also reaching there around that time so it would be convenient for all.
So, tickets booked, travel details conveyed, address exchanged and agreed that the venue would be discussed & finalised on the date of meeting.
We landed in Bombay at my mausi's place & the phone was connected to discuss the plan of meeting. The phone at our end was kept in loudspeaker mode so that all can hear the conversation & give inputs on the venue & meeting time.
All almost finalised when the father of the guy comes out with a very very special 'requirement'. He conveyed to my Dad that, Dad should ensure that the girl (that's yours truly) NEEDS to be attired 'decently' when we meet. He goes on to add that 'decently' means either Salwar Kameez or Saree. Further, he added that the kameez/blouse should not be sleeveless.....
I almost jumped out of my chair with my temper gone beyond the roof! I gestured to my Dad to bang the phone down. He, obviously ended the conversation decently.
I absolutely refused to go. My take, who is he to dictate what I will wear. A prospective FIL, but only prospective. If this is the attitude now, what will happen if things move further. Moreover, he expects me/us to be artificial & made up to please their eyes... Then, what all would they be hiding/covering/camouflaging, I wondered.
Since, we had travelled all the way & were going to return the next day, Dad said that we should go & give them a benefit of doubt.
So, we reach, meet but my mind was closed by then.
Oh yes! I did mention to the guy that I had expected to see him in Kurta Payjama/Dhooti & not Jeans & T-Shirt....
Loved the expression on his face... Priceless.....
:)
Jul 3, 2009
Conversation Series-Part-I
Sometime back I had written a post about the experience of trying to find a match for arranged marriage....
I now am posting the first conversation of the series..... Have Fun!
Newspaper matrimonial ads are one of the many ways used to search for a groom!
So in the process of scanning the paper, my parents came across 'an eligible prospect'. The ad carried a contact number which was promptly dialed.
After the initial introductions, my father conveyed a brief about our family. The person on the other end of the phone was the father of the prospective groom who gave my father a patient hearing and then started off with his idea/list/demands of a/from the prospective bride.
As per him, the prospective bride should take care of the family, be an able manager at home, ensure that there is no discord in the house and the supplies to home are taken care of in addition to keeping the house clean & decorated (Phew!!!). He further went on to add that both he & his son work and need to have proper breakfast before they leave for their respective work place, a packed lunch is a must and that the wife of his son should be home before they are back from work and ensure that fresh & hot dinner is served. In short he was looking for a dotting wife for his son. He also added that in case the girl wants to work post marriage she can do so if she can find time after fulfilling the above mentioned responsibilities!
Nothing wrong in this & appreciate his concern for his son.
But, lets now come to the ad he had placed.
The ad read that they are looking for a well educated, professionally qualified, preferably MBA girl for their son!
So the crux is that they basically wanted a professionally qualified DIL but can work only after finishing the ghar ka kaam!
My father thanked him for his 'frank' & 'to the point' description of the prospective bride and disconnected the call.
I have no clue why such an ad was placed when the requirement was so different. Do they think that a professionally qualified girl can only juggle & manage the various 'responsibilities' listed or they think that a girls ultimate desire is to get married & everything else can then be put on a back burner! I would love to have an insight into their thinking and know their point of view too.
I am not averse to the idea of a non working wife but there is a time for everything. Yes I like my independence but at the same time if there is a strong reason which demands that I need to not work for sometime I am ok with it. But not for the heck of it. I have worked equally hard if not more to be where I am today and I am not willing to give it up just like that!
I now am posting the first conversation of the series..... Have Fun!
Newspaper matrimonial ads are one of the many ways used to search for a groom!
So in the process of scanning the paper, my parents came across 'an eligible prospect'. The ad carried a contact number which was promptly dialed.
After the initial introductions, my father conveyed a brief about our family. The person on the other end of the phone was the father of the prospective groom who gave my father a patient hearing and then started off with his idea/list/demands of a/from the prospective bride.
As per him, the prospective bride should take care of the family, be an able manager at home, ensure that there is no discord in the house and the supplies to home are taken care of in addition to keeping the house clean & decorated (Phew!!!). He further went on to add that both he & his son work and need to have proper breakfast before they leave for their respective work place, a packed lunch is a must and that the wife of his son should be home before they are back from work and ensure that fresh & hot dinner is served. In short he was looking for a dotting wife for his son. He also added that in case the girl wants to work post marriage she can do so if she can find time after fulfilling the above mentioned responsibilities!
Nothing wrong in this & appreciate his concern for his son.
But, lets now come to the ad he had placed.
The ad read that they are looking for a well educated, professionally qualified, preferably MBA girl for their son!
So the crux is that they basically wanted a professionally qualified DIL but can work only after finishing the ghar ka kaam!
My father thanked him for his 'frank' & 'to the point' description of the prospective bride and disconnected the call.
I have no clue why such an ad was placed when the requirement was so different. Do they think that a professionally qualified girl can only juggle & manage the various 'responsibilities' listed or they think that a girls ultimate desire is to get married & everything else can then be put on a back burner! I would love to have an insight into their thinking and know their point of view too.
I am not averse to the idea of a non working wife but there is a time for everything. Yes I like my independence but at the same time if there is a strong reason which demands that I need to not work for sometime I am ok with it. But not for the heck of it. I have worked equally hard if not more to be where I am today and I am not willing to give it up just like that!
May 22, 2009
Conversations
Trying to get married can be a lengthy and tiresome process.... Well my experience says so....
I being an 'adarsh' daughter, is hoping for an arranged marriage. So my parents are busy doing there bit to find a match for me. But, for some reason or the other things have not worked out yet. In the process though I have ended up meeting few prospective matches/family or heard my parents speaking to few.
The conversations fall under various categories like decent, cultured, outrageous, conservative, pathetic, humorous, ridiculous & sometimes just silly.
So, I thought that I would start putting up these conversations here just for fun. The conversations which would follow in posts to come are totally authentic, real but the names of various people involved would not be discussed.
I being an 'adarsh' daughter, is hoping for an arranged marriage. So my parents are busy doing there bit to find a match for me. But, for some reason or the other things have not worked out yet. In the process though I have ended up meeting few prospective matches/family or heard my parents speaking to few.
The conversations fall under various categories like decent, cultured, outrageous, conservative, pathetic, humorous, ridiculous & sometimes just silly.
So, I thought that I would start putting up these conversations here just for fun. The conversations which would follow in posts to come are totally authentic, real but the names of various people involved would not be discussed.
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