Sometime back I had written a post about the experience of trying to find a match for arranged marriage....
I now am posting the first conversation of the series..... Have Fun!
Newspaper matrimonial ads are one of the many ways used to search for a groom!
So in the process of scanning the paper, my parents came across 'an eligible prospect'. The ad carried a contact number which was promptly dialed.
After the initial introductions, my father conveyed a brief about our family. The person on the other end of the phone was the father of the prospective groom who gave my father a patient hearing and then started off with his idea/list/demands of a/from the prospective bride.
As per him, the prospective bride should take care of the family, be an able manager at home, ensure that there is no discord in the house and the supplies to home are taken care of in addition to keeping the house clean & decorated (Phew!!!). He further went on to add that both he & his son work and need to have proper breakfast before they leave for their respective work place, a packed lunch is a must and that the wife of his son should be home before they are back from work and ensure that fresh & hot dinner is served. In short he was looking for a dotting wife for his son. He also added that in case the girl wants to work post marriage she can do so if she can find time after fulfilling the above mentioned responsibilities!
Nothing wrong in this & appreciate his concern for his son.
But, lets now come to the ad he had placed.
The ad read that they are looking for a well educated, professionally qualified, preferably MBA girl for their son!
So the crux is that they basically wanted a professionally qualified DIL but can work only after finishing the ghar ka kaam!
My father thanked him for his 'frank' & 'to the point' description of the prospective bride and disconnected the call.
I have no clue why such an ad was placed when the requirement was so different. Do they think that a professionally qualified girl can only juggle & manage the various 'responsibilities' listed or they think that a girls ultimate desire is to get married & everything else can then be put on a back burner! I would love to have an insight into their thinking and know their point of view too.
I am not averse to the idea of a non working wife but there is a time for everything. Yes I like my independence but at the same time if there is a strong reason which demands that I need to not work for sometime I am ok with it. But not for the heck of it. I have worked equally hard if not more to be where I am today and I am not willing to give it up just like that!
